Mindful Everyday Moment: #78 witnessing a last breath

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Mindful Everyday Moment: #78 witnessing a last breath

#78 - witnessing a last breath

Two years ago today, my Mom passed away. I hadn't seen or spoken to her in a few years because of challenging family dynamics. Witnessing her ten-year health decline without feeling heard (my perspective) was one of the hardest things I’ve faced. As you might know, I like to do hard things, this wasn’t one of them. It took a toll. 

Two years ago Sunday, circumstances abruptly changed while she was in hospice, so I immediately drove to Rochester to see her. Her breathing was labored, and she couldn't communicate, but I had faith that she could sense I was there and hoped that she could hear me. As she clutched her stuffed yellow duck (the duck is the Pause Breathe Reflect mascot), I told her that things were okay and she could let go. 

As I was sitting beside her, the chaplain came in to speak to my Dad. I spoke with him briefly before returning my attention to my Mom, and then she took her last breath. The hospice nurses said they frequently see this; they told me she was waiting for me. 

I’ve heard about these happening to other people, but never thought I would experience it. Luckily it’s not an everyday moment, but it’s one worth paying attention. The human body, mind, and soul never ceases to amaze me. 

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