Celebrating all on Mother's Day
As I sit with this sadness, I'm also grateful for how she influenced me as a man and husband as I celebrate my wife and her mothering of our two daughters - I've grown to believe that moms of teenage daughters have a special place waiting for them in heaven. My wife is also a childbirth doula, so the miracle of birth is ever present in our home.
For many, Mother's Day is a day to rejoice, but as a guy, having this proximity to birth provides a unique awareness that Mother's Day can be difficult for others who couldn't have children or those currently trying to conceive. It may be difficult for empty-nest moms, those who have lost children, feel unseen or grinding it out as single moms. At the same time, others may have a traumatic relationship with their mom which makes today challenging.
I invite you to love the mothers in your life and those who may have a strained relationship with Mother's Day. See them as these wonderfully complex humans and more than nurturers or caregivers, and create space for the myriad "feel of feelings" that you or those closest to you may experience today.
And then do it again tomorrow. Because the flowers and brunch today are sweet, but it probably doesn't make up for the other 364 times that Mom gets asked, "What's for dinner?" :)