A moment to pause - Happy Father's Day

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A moment to pause - Happy Father's Day

A moment to pause

Back in the mid-50s, there was a television show steeped in the dominant paternalistic approach of the day, and it still exists today - that is, the system, not the show, Father Knows Best - it only lasted four seasons. 

It was about a "typical" wholesome American middle-class family called The Andersons. They were from Springfield, which became the home of The Simpsons. I bet Father Anderson thought the neighborhood was going to pot when Homer moved in. 

Growing up, I accepted paternalism, too. My parents work outside the home, but my Dad (Hi Dad, Happy Father's Day. He reads all my posts), was the head of our household. My friends' dads also led their homes. It was the world I was raised in. 

Then I grew up, went off to college, and landed in D.C. 

My worldview started to open up, and I realized how limiting it was to believe that men have it all figured out. Don't get me wrong, my Dad taught me so much, but so did my Mom. They just did so in different ways.

I still have some old paternalistic beliefs deep in my backpack, but I'm grateful that my daughters and wife keep me humble. I realize I don't know more than I know and try to be open to unlearn what I think I know. 

We recognize Father's Day this weekend in The U.S., Canada, and The U.K. Like Mother's Day, it's challenging for many. If it's challenge for you, I hope you will give yourself compassion and grace today. 

I'll spend the day reflecting on what my Dad has taught me and my role as a father and remain curious about what I think I know, and hopefully, every once in a while, I will get something right.

I will host a special Loving-Kindness Father's Day meditation/talk on Sunday at noon Eastern. It will recognize the range of thoughts and feelings we experience on Father's Day; everyone is welcome.

Zoom Link: https://pausebreathereflect.zoom.us/my/michaelobrien?pwd=WE5pOFFRUFhJRFB6ZjRNOEtJbS9Tdz09


Mindful Moments Meditation Cards:

Let's face it, Dad doesn't need any more ties or socks (sorry, Bombas). Plus, it's a little late to get him a gift. Just sayin'. 

So this year, skip the stores and send Dad one of our memorable Mindful Moment Greeting Cards and help him stress less and recognize the ripple he's making.

You'll find them via the "ripple" button on your app, and in one short day, the response has blown away my expectations. We designed them with the intent of helping create greater connection and belonging in a meaningful way.

Each Mindful Moment comes with a two-minute meditation and creates a beautiful ripple. And the cool part is that they're free to send and receive. All you need is the app; you can download it here via your smartphone


Gratitude is The Way:

As you know, gratitude is one of Pause Breathe Reflect's first principles, so we always celebrate when others ripple gratitude into the world. This week, Chris Palmore, released his third book about gratitude, featuring writing from a few community members: Billie Short, Sharon Buckler, Karen Hoffman, and Bobby Kountz. This weekend the e-book version of Gratitude Journey: Volume 3 is just $0.99. I hope you'll pick up a copy. I promise it will make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside. 


This Week's Poem

If by Rudyard Kipling

If you can keep your head when all about you   
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,   
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;   
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;   
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;   
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;  
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:
If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,   
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,   
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,   
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,   
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!
Until next week, keep rippling something worth rippling and I hope to see you tomorrow. 
Happy Father's Day!